4 LIES ABOUT YOUR WEDDING DAY
1 "THIS IS THE MOST IMPORTANT DAY OF YOUR LIFE"
With no intention to downplay or cast off the significance of this day, putting this kind of weight on your wedding day is simply untrue and an unnecessary cause of anxiety/pressure. Your wedding day is AN important day in your life - one where you dedicate time to reflect on who you've become as a couple and where you'd like to grow. The reality is that your life will allot you so many more days that shine just as brightly as your wedding day, so don't make one day so heavy - be present and experience the day knowing you will have more days just like it, surrounded in love and wonder.
2 “YOUR CEREMONY MUST HAVE XYZ”
PLEASE, please, please do not succumb to this rhetoric. This is probably one of the most anticipated and memorable days of your life, so make sure you include rituals that are so YOU your guests aren’t remotely surprised. Don’t feel pressured to conform to normal- What’s normal anyways?
3 "SOMETHING IS BOUND TO GO WRONG"
Okay, this isn't a lie. This is the truth, however, it is the truth of EVERY situation. We get attached to ideas in our head about how events SHOULD look and how they SHOULD play out. Avoid feeling anxious when something doesn't stick to the script, by letting go of the script. I leave you with this quote from The Buddha, "You only lose what you cling to."
4 "YOU DON'T NEED A PHOTOGRAPHER/VIDEOGRAPHER"
You've got a strict budget that needs to divide itself between various vendors, leaving you in charge of prioritizing what will end up being most valuable after the day is over. You might chalk it up to "everyone will be taking videos/pictures on their phones," however, you'll likely end up with grainy, blurry content that is biased based on who's taking them, and you'll never get those dreamy shots that capture the depth of the way you really felt about your fiancé on your wedding day. Videography/photography is the most common answer to "What do you wish you’d spent more money on?".